Will I Ever Find Closure in Recovery?

Why is Kindling an Addiction so Dangerous?
Why is Kindling an Addiction so Dangerous?
December 27, 2018
New Year - New Growth in Recovery
New Year – New Growth in Recovery
January 1, 2019

Relationships are difficult at times to say the least. Having resentments with friends and family can stay around for longer periods of time which keep us from connecting to the people that we love the most in our life. What usually happens to us with addictive thinking is that we relive the negative events that have transpired with loved ones over and over in our minds without any resolution. Instead of trying to gain closure, we would rather die on the inside than admit that we had any part in what they have done to us.

Once we get sober, our thinking must change or else we will keep doing what we were doing and put ourselves at a greater risk to drink or take drugs again. Part of this process is finding closure with people, places, and things which have kept us from gaining the serenity we so desire in our recovery. The problem that we have is getting our ego out of the way and understanding that keeping our side of the street clean is our best chance at acquiring the closure that we continue to sabotage ourselves from acquiring.

Move on

Being able to let go of what has haunted us for so long may seem farfetched. Change is inevitable for an inside job to occur. Finding a sponsor and working the steps is the best change we can make to ensure closure. Using the steps, the way they are intended will help to see situations in their entirety and help us to understand what our part really is.

Forgive them

Say what? We should not only forgive them, but we should forget too. This may seem impossible to many of us who have the adversity endlessly in the forefront our minds. Obviously, we want to keep the memory at bay so that we do not depend on someone again who is untrustworthy. If the memory is keeping us defective, truly forgiving them can be key to helping us also forgive ourselves and absolve the negativity that surrounds it.

Be honest

Now that we are sober, we cannot afford to keep any secrets about anything. Not telling the truth about what has happened in our past keeps us as sick as our secrets. Talking about the things that have had tremendous negative effect on us gives us the ability to get well.

Closure is necessary, and the entire process will free us up to be of service to others by not thinking about the things that keep us thinking about our ourselves. By taking the necessary steps to get from point A to point B with closure may be the opening we have been searching for all along.

Here at The Kimberly Center, we offer a variety of recovery programs that are designed to help our clients with their substance abuse. We treat our clients on an individual basis to help them transition into a new life of sobriety.

Call us today to begin: 855-4-KCENTER (855-452-3683)

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