Walking on pins and needles with someone who just got sober is a pretty normal occurrence. A newly sober person is a like a raw nerve walking around trying to do something that is foreign to them – stay sober. Instead of having the very things that make them feel-good, they become abstinent and have to find healthier means to take over as a feel good substitute.

While all of this new sobriety is taking place, it is typical to become restless, irritable, and discontented during the process which makes someone seem unapproachable. The truth is that they really want your support but do not know how to accept it. You can be their cheerleader by encouraging them with your words.

“What can I do to help?”

Although they may not take you up on your offer, the sentiment is meaningful enough and you can plant the seeds for future help. Most people who are going through recovery from addiction do not like to ask for help because they appear to be weak. Someone who is in recovery needs help because trying to sober alone will not work for them.

“You can do this!”

Letting them know that you believe in their efforts to get sober will go a long way into their recovery. You can be their biggest supporter, so they know that they have someone on their side. Addiction is an isolating condition which lies to the person and makes them think that they are alone. Just giving them a cheer of encouragement can give them some the motivation they need to keep going.

“I’m proud of you.”

Unless you have had an addiction yourself, you will not understand how a person’s self-esteem can suffer from abusing drugs and alcohol along with the despicable lengths they will go to acquire them. Shame and guilt become the normal feelings that infiltrate a person’s daily thoughts and actions. By telling them that you are proud of them, you are letting them know that you recognize the progress they are making with better choices in their life.  

Obviously, some of these statements you may be leery to say due to the possible dysfunction of your relationship. Do not knock it until you try it because saying these positive affirmations can be the beginning of the healing process that you both need to move forward.

If you or someone you know is struggling with drug or alcohol addiction, The Kimberly Center thrives on helping restore individuals to a healthier, happier, and more productive life free from substance abuse. We hope you choose to begin your new life with us.

Call us today: 855-4-KCENTER (855-452-3683)